How to Acquire Good Manners‏

[This is a chapter from the book "Makaarim-ul-Akhlaaq" (pg. 32-35) [Dar-ul-Watan Lin-Nashr] By Shaikh Muhammad bin Saalih Al-‘Uthaimeen, prepared and arranged by Khaalid Abu Saalih.]








We mentioned previously that good manners can either be present in someone naturally or they can be instilled into him (i.e. through learning). And we stated that inherent good manners are better than acquired good manners. We mentioned a proof for this which was the Messenger of Allaah’s (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) statement to Al-Ashaj bin ‘Abdil-Qais (radyAllaahu ‘anhu):


“Rather, Allaah has molded (i.e. created) you upon these two (noble characteristics).” [1]




It is also because good manners that are innate do not disappear from a human being whereas good manners that are acquired may vanish from a person in many instances since it requires constant practice and effort as well as exercise and hard work. It also requires that one be reminded of it whenever there occurs something that affects a human being. This is why when a man once came to the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and said to him: “O Messenger of Allaah, advise me”, he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:
  “Do not get angry.” 




The man then repeated his request several times, upon which the Prophet continued to reply:
  “Do not get angry.” [2]




The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) also said:
  “The strong person is not the one who wrestles and overpowers his opponents. Rather the strong person is the one who controls himself in times of anger.” [3]




So a strong person is not someone who wrestles with people and overpowers them, He is someone “who controls himself in times of anger.” He takes hold of himself and restrains himself during instances when he becomes angry.




A person controlling himself in times of anger is considered a characteristic of good manners. So if you become angry, do not let your anger penetrate, rather seek refuge in Allaah from the accursed Devil. And if you are standing, then sit down. If you are sitting, then lie down. And if your anger increases, then perform ablution (wudoo) until it goes away.








A person may acquire and earn good manners by way of training (himself), working hard at it and through constant practice. So he may obtain good manners through one of the following methods:


First: By contemplating on the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger: One should look up the texts that show the virtue of the particular noble characteristic that he wishes to characterize himself with. This is since when a believer sees some texts that praise a characteristic or action, he implements them. [4]




The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) indicated this when he said: “The example of a good companion and an evil companion is like that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk either sells you (perfume), gives you free samples or you get a pleasing smell from him. As for the example of an evil companion – such as a blacksmith – he either burns your clothes or you get a nasty smell from him.” [5]








Second: He should accompany those who are known for having good manners whilst staying far away from those who possess bad manners and poor actions. This is such that he turns this companionship of his into an educational institute that assists him in (his goal of) obtaining good manners. The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:




  “A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let each of you look into whom he takes as a close friend.” [6]








Third: He should reflect on the consequences that come as a result of having bad manners. This is since a person with bad manners is despised. A person with bad manners is forsaken. A person with bad manners is always talked about in a bad way. So when one comes to realize that bad manners will lead him to all of this, he will then keep away from it.








Fourth: He should always envision an image of the Prophet’s (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) manners and how he (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) would humble himself before the creation, being kind to them, forgiving to them and patient with their harm. So if a person visualizes the Prophet’s character and the fact that he was the best of mankind and the greatest of those who worshipped Allaah, he will then perceive a low image of himself and at this point the influence that arrogance has over him will be shattered and this will cause him to have good manners.




Footnotes: 
[1] Reported by Abu Dawood (no. 5335), Ahmad in al-Musnad (4/206), Muslim with only the first part of it (no. 25 & 26), and At-Tirmidhee (no. 2011)
[2] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 6116) and At-Tirmidhee (no. 2020)
[3] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 6114) and Muslim (no. 107)
[4] Purification (of the soul) cannot be achieved except by way of the messengers as stated by Ibn Al-Qayyim when he said: “Purifying the souls is harder and more difficult than curing the bodies. So whoever purifies his soul through exercise, hard work and being in isolation – all of which the messengers did not come with – he is like a sick person that tries to cure himself based on his own opinion. Where is his opinion with respect to the expertise of a doctor?! The messengers are the doctors of the hearts – there is no way to purify and rectify the hearts except through their way, at their hands and by totally submitting and complying with them. And we ask Allaah for His assistance!” [Madaarij-us-Saalikeen (2/300)]
[5] Reported by Al-Bukhaaree (no. 2101 & 5534) and Muslim (no. 146); An-Nawawee said: “This shows the virtue of accompanying righteous and good people – those who possess chivalry, good manners, piety, knowledge, and good behavior. It also shows the prohibition of accompanying evil people, innovators, and those who backbite people or who are very wicked and so on, i.e. other types of condemnable characteristics.” [See Sharh Saheeh Muslim: (16/394)]
[6] Reported by At-Tirmidhee (no. 2378) who said it was hasan saheeh, Abu Dawood (no. 4833), Ahmad in al-Musnad (2/303, 334) and deemed hasan (sound) by Al-Albaanee in Saheeh-ul-Jaami’ as-Sagheer (no. 3545) and Silsilat-ul-Ahaadeeth as-Saheehah (no. 927).

a woman never worships Allâh in the way she does when she worships Him in her house.

Women are ‘Awrah - Explained

‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:

Women are but an ‘awrah (something private to be covered). A woman might leave her house without there being any problem with her, but the Shaytân seeks her out and says [to her], “You will not pass by anyone except that you will impress/please him.” A woman puts on her clothes and is asked where she is going, to which she replies, “To visit a sick person,” or “to attend a funeral”, or “to pray in the masjid”; but a woman never worships Allâh in the way she does when she worships Him in her house.

Al-Tabarânî. Graded sahîh by Shaykh Al-Albânî in Sahîh Al-Targhîbi wa Al-TarhîbVol. 1 p84.

Shaykh Yahya al-Haajooee, regarding his father and his seeking of knowledge

My father raised me and my brothers well, away from Qaat, smoking, Shamah and other calamities. Nothing would upset him more than seeing us being negligent in the prayer of congregation or our supererogatory prayers. The most beloved thing to him was that one of us would become a scholar. He sent us to study in Katateeb, he put me to study under the Mi'laamah of the Ameen of the village, it's Khateeb and Faqeeh; Yahya al 'Aatibee, may Allaah have mercy upon him. Studying in a Mi'laamah was in accordance to the methodology of those of old.

Upon graduating from the Mi'laamah with knowledge of the Qur-aan and reading it, my father decided to take me to the city of az Zaydeeyyah since it was said at the time that it was the city of knowledge and Fatwaa. My father, may Allaah preserve him, loves knowledge and religion, he used pray the night prayers and fast a lot, I do not know that he ever earned one Dirham from impermissible means, but he did not know about Sufeeyyah, Shee'ah or other misguided sects, he used to respect them and they would visit him a lot. Allaah saved me from studying under the Sufeeyyah through my mother, may Allaah preserve her and grant her a good end. She would cry so that I do not go and stay in another city by myself without a partner from my town at a young age, so my father let me remain and herd sheep.

I then traveled to Saudi Arabia where I attended the circle of Qur-aan of the noble Shaykh 'Ubaydullaah al Afghaanee, may Allaah preserve him, after Fajr in the city of Abha. I also studied some of Saheeh Muslim from him, he used to start with it before listening to us. He traveled and I studied under Shaykh Muhammad A'dham who used to teach Qur-aan in Masjid Yahya, I read until Surat al 'Araaf to them both, then the Shaykh traveled and I completed the Qur-aan with the Riwaayah of Hafs 'an 'Aasim with Muhammad Basheer and to Allaah belongs al praise.

Even though I loved knowledge at that time, I did not find anybody to direct me to study with ash Shaykh al Imaam ibn Baaz, or others from the scholars of Saudi who were teaching, may Allaah have mercy upon them. I then heard of the Shaykh al 'Allaamah Muqbil ibn Haadee al Waadi'ee, may Allaah have mercy over him, that he was a Salafee scholar teaching the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the Messenger - صلى الله عليه وسلم - in Damaaj, may Allaah protect it and grant its people success in attaining all that is good. I met him in his blessed house in the year 1405 H, my father came with me and told the Shaykh to look after me and left, and he continued to aid me in seeking knowledge with monetary aid every now and then.

Ever since that time I remained seeking knowledge, I do not like traveling a lot and wasting time, so Allaah, with His mercy, facilitated a lot of good and benefit in a number of sciences at the hands of our Shaykh, al 'Alaamah al Muhaddith al Salafee al Maymoon Muqbil ibn Haadee al Waadi'ee, may Allaah have mercy upon him.

Likewise is the state in this blessed place (Damaaj), I used to teach Arabic Grammar, 'Aqeedah and Fiqh in addition to what we all were studying under our Shaykh, Shaykh al Mashaayikh of the Salafee Da'wah in Yemen, Muqbil ibn Haadee al Waadi'ee, may Allaah have mercy upon him. After that, our Shaykh Muqbil, may Allaah make his home Firdaus, used to order me to take his place in teaching if he was sick or traveled, and when his time came close, he advised that I take his place after him.

The enemies of this place used to harbor evil suspicions, that after the Shaykh passed away, may Allaah have mercy upon him, the Da'wah would be removed and the building would be turned into warehouses for Qaat, as we and others used to hear them say during the illness of the Shaykh and prior to that. When Allaah turned the hearts of His servants to this goodness after the Shaykh's death, the Da'wah expanded even more, and the numbers of students have increased by folds since the time of its founder, our Shaykh al Imaam al Waadi'ee may Allaah have mercy upon him. This angered some of those who were afflicted with the disease of jealousy in their hearts, from amongst the students of the Shaykh, may Allaah have mercy upon him, or other than them from amongst those who have other worldly motives or partisanship, Allaah repelled their evil and left fallow their plots.

Surah at-Tawbah - 009 - v.81-110 - الشيخ يحيى بن علي الحجوري

Sheikh Muhammad Bin Salih al Uthaymeen - Quran Recitation

ash'shaykh yahya al hajooree surah taahaa

Surah As-Saffat Shaykh Yahya Al Hajooree

Surah Maryam By Shaykh Yahya Al Hajooree | English Translation

Surah al-Faatir - Shaykh Yahya al-Hajooree

Quran recitation by Shaykh Muhammad Al-Imam

Recitation by Shaykh Ahmed Imaam of The Masjid in Daar Al-Haddith Dammaj

The Proper Manner of Answering the Telephone: Beneficial Knowledge from Ash-Shaykh Al-Albaanee (rahimahullaah)

What follows is beneficial knowledge from AshShaykh Al’Allaamah AlAlbaanee (rahimahullaah) transmitted by way of his student Shaykh Saalih bin Taha Abu Islaam (hafidhahullaah) in his book entitled, (what translated means) ‘Al-’Aqeedah first, if they but only knew’ (Vol 1, pgs. 16-17), wherein he (Abu Islaam) said,

“He called me rahimahullaah (meaning Ash-Shaykh AlAlbaanee) one day by telephone, but I was not there. My young daughter, upon answering the telephone, said, “Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullaah” . The Shaykh asked for me and then said to her, “Inform your father that Muhammad Naasiriddeen Al-Albaanee called”. (He did not say ‘Ash-Shaykh’ . . . and this is from his humbleness, may Allaah raise his rank in Al-jannah)”.

“When I returned home, my daughter informed me that a man by the name of Muhammad Naasiriddeen AlAlbaanee had called. I returned his call immediately. After he (the Shaykh) requested from me that which he had wanted, he said, “Oh Abaa Islaam, when I phoned you your young daughter answered and said, “Assalaamu ‘alaikum wa rahmatullaah” . Is this an action (mannerism) based on knowledge? Or just (your) young (daughter’s) personal action (mannerism)? We want to (derive) benefit (from this) Oh Abaa Islaam”. And this (the comment of the Shaykh) is also from his humbleness and wisdom in (conveying) Adda’wah. Then I said to him, “Truly this is from the action (mannerism) of (my young daughter) and for the first time”.

“From that which we know in this situation is that when a man (meaning collectively - ‘anyone’) answers the telephone he says, “Na’am” (Yes), then the person calling gives assalaam to the person he has called (by saying “Assalaamu ‘alaikum . . .”), then the person who answers the call returns assalaam. He (the one answering the call) does not begin with “Assalaamu ‘alaikum . . . .”

Then he (the Shaykh) rahimahullaah said: “This is from that which we know to be correct. Because the person calling is like the person who knocks on the door. There is no difference between them.

[End of translation]

And if they desire children (The inhabitants of Jannah)!

Upon the authority of Abu Sa'eed Al Khudri - Radhiyallahu 'Anhu - who said that the Messenger of Allah - Sallallahu Alaihi Was Salam said: 

"If the believer desires a child in Jannah, then pregnancy, child birth and the child coming of age occurs in an hour (or in a short period) and the child is just as they desire!"

(Collected by Ahmad (11079)  and Tirmidhi (2563) and declared 'Saheeh' By Shaikh Al Albaani in 'Saheeh Sunanit Tirmidhi' (2077))

Top Ten Excuses for Not Wearing Hijab

This is to all my Muslim sisters out there who knowingly and unknowingly disobey the Almighty Allah by disregarding his unquestionable law of the Hijab…

Among the pictures that point to the distance of society from the right path and that make clear the level of its deviation and separation from it is the open spread of women not just uncovering their faces but enhancing and making a display of their beauty. We find that this is manifested regretfully, in Islamic (Muslim) society despite that Islamic clothing is also widespread. So then, what are the reasons that have led to this digression?

Stay with me my dear Muslim sister in these few lines so that we can know through them the reasons for turning away from the hijaab and then discuss each.



Excuse One: I’m not yet convinced (of the necessity) of hijaab. 

We then ask this sister two questions.

1: Is she truly convinced of the correctness of the religion of Islam?

The natural answer is: Yes she is convinced for she responds “Laa ilaaha illallah!” (There is no god but Allah), meaning she is convinced of the aqeedah, and then she says: “Muhammadun rasoolullah!” (Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah), meaning by that that she is convinced of its legislation or law (Sharee’ah). Therefore, she is convinced of Islam as a belief system and a law by which one governs and rules their life.

2: Is the hijaab then a part of Islamic Law (Sharee’ah) and an obligation?

If this sister is honest and sincere in her intention and has looked into the issue as one who truly wants to know the truth her answer could only be: Yes. For Allah ta’aala, whose deity (Uloohiyyah) she believes in has commanded wearing hijaab in His Book (Al-Qur’an) and the noble Prophet (alayhe salaat wa salaam) whose message she believes in has commanded wearing the hijaab in his Sunnah.

In summary: If this sister is convinced of Islam, how then can she not be convinced of its orders?

A person cannot be a half-Muslim, or a halfway following Muslim. To be a Muslim, one must learn Islam and accept the laws of our religion. If someone needs to think about a LAW of Islam, suffice it to say, they are saying they in some way disagree with the commands of the Almighty. One cannot say they believe in the Almighty unquestionably and yet find hesitation in following his laws can they?



Excuse Two: I am convinced of Islamic dress but my mother prevents me from wearing it and if I disobey her I will go to the Fire. 

The one who has answered this excuse is the most noble of Allah’s creation, the messenger of Allah (SAWS) in concise and comprehensive words of wisdom: “There is no obedience to the created in the disobedience of Allah.” [Ahmad]

The status of parents in Islam, especially the mother, is a high and elevated one. Indeed Allah ta’aala has combined it with the greatest of matters, worshipping Him and His Tawheed, in many aayaat. He stated: 

“Worship Allah and join none with Him and do good to parents.” [Soorah An-Nisaa 4: 36]. Obedience to parents is not limited except in one aspect, and that is if they order to disobedience of Allah. Allah said:“But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not.” [Soorah Luqmaan 31: 15]

The lack of obedience to them in sinfulness does not prevent being good to them and kind treatment of them. Allah said afterward in the same aayah: But behave with them world kindly.

In summary: How can you obey your mother and disobey Allah Who created you and your mother? What is the purpose of disregarding the sunnah in this short life to please people, if we displease the most high (Allah) who decides where our eternity will be spent?”

Sounds a little self-destructive to me…



Excuse Three: My position does not allow me to substitute my dress for Islamic dress. 

This sister is either one or the other of two types: She is sincere and honest, or she is a slippery liar who desires to make a showy display of her “hijaab” clamoring with colors to be “in line with the times” and expensive”. We will begin with an answer to the honest and sincere sister. Are you unaware my dear sister that it is not permissible for the Muslim woman to leave her home in any instance unless her clothing meets the conditions of Islamic hijaab (Hijaab shar’ee) and it is a duty of every Muslim woman to know what they are? If you have taken the time and effort to learn so many matters of this world how then can you be neglectful of learning those matters which will save you from the punishment of Allah and His anger death!!? Does Allah not say: 

“Ask the people of remembrance (i.e. knowledgeable scholars) if you do not know.” [Soorah An-Nahl 16: 43] 

Learn therefore, the requirements of proper hijaab. If you must go out, then do not do so without the correct hijaab, seeking the pleasure of Allah and the degradation of Shaitaan. That is because the corruption brought about by your going out adorned and “beautified” is far greater than the matter which you deem necessary to go out for. 

My dear sister if you are really truthful in your intention and correctly determined you will find a thousands hands of good assisting you and Allah will make the matter easy for you! Is He not the One Who says: 

“And whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty) and He will provide him from sources he never could imagine.” [Soorah At-Talaaq 65:2-3] 

With regards to the ‘slippery’ one we say: Honor and position is something determined by Allah ta’aala and it is not due to embellishment of clothing and show of colors and keeping up with the trendsetters. It is rather due to obedience to Allah and His Messenger (SAWS) and holding to the pure law of Allah and correct Islamic hijaab. Listen to the words of Allah: “Indeed, the most honorable amongst you are those who are the most pious.” [Soorah Al-Hujraat 49: 35].

In summary: Do things in the way of seeking Allah’s pleasure and entering His Jannah and give less value to the high priced and costly objects and wealth of this word. 



Excuse Four: It is so very hot in my country and I can’t stand it. How could I take it if I wore the hijaab? 

Allah gives an example by saying: “Say: The Fire of hell is more intense in heat if they only understand.” [Soorah At-Taubah 9:81]. How can you compare the heat of your land to the heat of the Hellfire? Know, my sister, that Shaitaan as trapped you in one of his feeble ropes to drag you from the heat of this world to the heat of the Hellfire. Free yourself from his net and view the heat of the sun as a favor and not an affliction especially in that it reminds you of the intensity of the punishment of Allah which is many times greater than the heat you now feel. Return to the order of Allah and sacrifice this worldly comfort in the way of following the path of salvation from the Hellfire about which Allah says: “They will neither feel coolness nor have any drink except that of boiling water and the discharge of dirty wounds.” [Soorah An-Naba’ 78: 24-25].

In summary: The Jannah is surrounded by hardships and toil, while Hellfire is surrounded by temptations, lusts and desires. 



Excuse Five: I’m afraid that if I wear the hijaab I will put it off at another time because I have seen so many others do so!!!

To her I say: If everyone was to apply your logic then they would have left the Deen in its entirety! They would have left off salaat because some would be afraid of leaving it later. They would have left fasting in Ramadan because so many are afraid of not doing it later…etc. Haven’t you seen how Shaitaan has trapped you in his snare again and blocked you from guidance? 

Allah ta’aala loves continuous obedience even if it be small or recommended. How about something that is an absolute obligation like wearing hijaab?! The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “The most beloved deed with Allah is the consistent one though it be little.” Why haven’t you sought out the causes leading those people to leave of the hijaab so that you can avoid them and work to keep away from them? Why haven’t you sought out reasons and causes to affirm truth and guidance until you can hold firm to them? 

Among these causes is much supplication to Allah (du’aa) to make the heart firm upon the Deen as did the Prophet (SAWS). Also is making salaat and having mindfulness of it as Allah stated: “And seek help in patience and the prayer and truly it is extremely heavy except for the true believers in Allah who obey Allah with full submission and believe in His promise of Jannah and in His warnings (Al Khaashi’oon).” [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2:45]

Other causes to put one upon guidance and truth are adherence to the laws of Islam and one of them is indeed wearing the hijaab. Allah said: “If they had done what they were told, it would have been better for them and would have strengthened their faith.” [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2: 66].

In summary: If you hold tight to the causes of guidance and taste the sweetness of faith you will not neglect the orders of Allah after having held to them.



Excuse Six: If I wear the hijaab then nobody will marry me, so I’m going to leave it off until then. 

Any husband, who desires that you be uncovered and adorned in public in defiance of and in disobedience to Allah, is not a worthy husband in the first place. He is a husband who has no feeling to protect what Allah has made inviolable, most notably you, and he will not help you in any way to enter Al-Jannah or escape from the Hellfire. A home which is founded upon disobedience to Allah and provocation of His anger is fitting that He decrees misery and hardship for it in this life and in the Hereafter. As Allah stated: “But whosoever, turns away from My reminder (i.e. neither believes in the Qur’an nor acts upon its teachings) verily for him is a life of hardship and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection.” [Soorah TaHa 20: 124] 

Marriage is a favor and blessing from Allah to whom He give whom He wills. How many women who wear hijaab (mutahajibah) are in fact married while many who don’t aren’t? If you were to say that ‘…my being made-up and uncovered is a means to reach a pure end, namely marriage’, a pure goal or end is not attained through impure and corrupt means in Islam. If the goal is honorable then it must necessarily be achieved by pure and clean method. We say the rule in Islam is: the means are according to the rules of the intended goals. 

In summary: There is no blessing in a marriage established upon sinfulness and corruption.



Excuse Seven: I don’t wear hijaab based on what Allah says: “And proclaim the grace of your Rabb” [Soorah Ad-Dhuhaa 93: 11]. How can I cover what Allah has blessed me with of silky soft hair and captivating beauty?! 

So… this sister of ours adheres to the Book of Allah and its commands as long as they coincide with her personal desires and understanding! She leaves behind those matters when they don’t please her. If this was not the case, then why doesn’t she follow the aayah: “And do not show off their adornment except only that which is apparent” [Soorah An-Noor 24: 31] and the statement of Allah: “Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies.” [Soorah Al-Ahzab 33:59]

With this statement my sister you have now made a Shari’ah (law) for yourself of what Allah ta’aala has strictly forbidden, namely beautification (at-tabarruj) and uncovering (as-sufoor), and the reason: Your lack of wanting to adhere to the order. The greatest blessing or favor that Allah has bestowed upon us is that of Eemaan (faith) and hidaayah (guidance) and among them is the Islamic hijaab. Why then do you not manifest and talk about this greatest of blessings given to you?

In summary: Is there a greater blessing and favor upon the woman than guidance and hijaab?



Excuse Eight: I know that hijaab is obligatory (waajib), but I will wear it when Allah guidance me to do so. 

We ask this sister on what plans or steps she will undertake until she accepts this divine guidance? We know that Allah has in His wisdom made a cause or means for everything. That is why the sick take medicine to regain health, and the traveler rides a vehicle or an animal to reach his destination, and other limitless examples. 

Has this sister of ours seriously endeavored to seek true guidance and exerted the proper means to get it such as: Supplicating Allah sincerely as He stated: “Guide us to the Straight Path.” [Soorah Al-Faatihaa 1: 6]; Keeping company with the righteous good sisters – for they are among the best to assist her to guidance and to continue to point her to it until Allah guides her and increases her guidance and inspires her to further guidance and taqwaa. She would then adhere to the orders of Allah and wear the hijaab that the believing women are commanded to wear.

In summary: If this sister was really serious about seeking guidance she would have exerted herself by the proper means to get it. 



Excuse Nine: It’s not time for that yet. I’m still too young for wearing hijaab. I’ll do it when I get older and after I make Hajj (Pilgrimage to Mecca)!

The Angel of Death my sister is visiting and waiting at your door for the order of Allah ta’aala to open it on you at any moment in your life. Allah said: “When their term comes, neither can they delay it nor can they advance it an hour (or a moment).” [Soorah Al-An’aam 7:34]

Death my sister doesn’t discriminate between the young or the old and it may come while you are in this state of great sinfulness disobedience, fighting against the Lord of Honor with your uncovering and shameless adornment. My sister, you should race to obedience along with those others who race to answer the call of Allah tabaaraka wa ta’aala: “Race with one another in hastening towards forgiveness from your Lord and Paradise the width whereof is as the width of the heavens and the earth.” [Soorah Al-hadeed 57:21]

Sister, don’t forget Allah or He will forget you by turning His mercy away from you in this life and the next. You are forgetting your own soul by not fulfilling the right or your souls to obey Allah and proper worship of Him. Allah stated about the hypocrites (Al-Munaafiqoon): “And be not like those who forgot Allah and He caused them to forget their own selves.” [Soorah Al-Hashr 59: 19]

My sister wear the hijaab in your young age in opposition to the sinful deed because Allah is intense in punishment and will ask you on the Day of Resurrection about your youth and every moment of your life.

In summary: Stop presuming some future expectation in your life will indeed occur!! How can you guarantee your own life until tomorrow?



Excuse Ten: I’m afraid that if I wear Islamic clothing that I’ll be labeled as belonging to some group or another and I hate partisanship. 

My sister in Islam, there are only two parties in Islam, and they are both mentioned by Allah Almighty in His Noble Book. The first party is the party of Allah (Hizbullah) that He gives victory to because of their obedience to His commands and staying away from what He has forbidden. The second party is the party of the accursed Shaitaan (hizbush-Shaitan) which disobeys the Most Merciful and increase corruption in the earth. When you hold tight to and adhere to the commands of Allah, and among them is wearing the hijaab – you then become a part of the successful party of Allah. When you beautify and display your charms you are riding in the boat of Shaitaan and his friends and partners from among the hypocrites and the disbelievers and none worse could there be as friends. 

Don’t you see how you are running from Allah and to the Shaitaan, trading filth for good? Run instead my sister to Allah and follow His way: “So flee to Allah (from His Torment to His mercy). Verily I (Muhammad) am a plain warner to you from Him.” [Soorah Adh-Dhaariyaat 51: 50]. The hijaab is a high form of worship that is not subject to the opinions of people and their orientation and choices because the one who legislated it is the Most Wise Creator.

In summary: In the way of seeking the pleasure of Allah and in hope of His Mercy and success in His Jannah and throw the statements of the devils among people and jinn against the wall! Hold tight to the legislation of Allah by your molars and follow the example of the striving and knowledgeable Mothers of the Believers and the female companions (radhiallahu anhum ajma’een).



In Conclusion 

Your body is on display in the market of Shaitan seducing the hearts of men. The hairstyles, the tight clothing showing every detail of your figure, the short dresses showing off your legs and feet, the showy, decorative and fragrant clothing all angers the Merciful and pleases the Shaitaan.

Every day that passes while you are in this condition, distances you further from Allah and brings you closer to Shaitaan.

Each day curses and anger are directed toward you from the heavens until you repent. 

Every day brings you closer to the grave and the Angel of Death is ready to capture your soul.

“Everyone shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Hellfire and admitted to Al-Jannah, is indeed successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing).” [Soorah Aale ‘Imraan 3:185] 

Get on the train of repentance my sister, before it passes by your station. Deeply consider my sister, what is happening today before tomorrow comes. Think about it, my sister – Now, before it is too late!

Assalamualikum.
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Last night two persons came to me (in a dream) and woke me up and said to me, ‘Proceed!’

Sahih Bukhari Volume 9, Book 87, Number 171

Narrated Samura bin Jundub

:Allah's Apostle very often used to ask his companions, "Did anyone of you see a dream?" So dreams would be narrated to him by those whom Allah wished to tell.

One morning the Prophet said,

"Last night two persons came to me (in a dream) and woke me up and said to me, 'Proceed!'

I set out with them and we came across a man Lying down, and behold, another man was standing over his head, holding a big rock. Behold, he was throwing the rock at the man's head, injuring it. The rock rolled away and the thrower followed it and took it back. By the time he reached the man, his head returned to the normal state. The thrower then did the same as he had done before. I said to my two companions, 'Subhan Allah! Who are these two persons?' They said, 'Proceed!'

So we proceeded and came to a man Lying flat on his back and another man standing over his head with an iron hook, and behold, he would put the hook in one side of the man's mouth and tear off that side of his face to the back (of the neck) and similarly tear his nose from front to back and his eye from front to back. Then he turned to the other side of the man's face and did just as he had done with the other side. He hardly completed this side when the other side returned to its normal state. Then he returned to it to repeat what he had done before. I said to my two companions, 'Subhan Allah! Who are these two persons?' They said to me, 'Proceed!'

So we proceeded and came across something like a Tannur (a kind of baking oven, a pit usually clay-lined for baking bread)." I think the Prophet said, "In that oven there was much noise and voices." The Prophet added, "We looked into it and found naked men and women, and behold, a flame of fire was reaching to them from underneath, and when it reached them, they cried loudly. I asked them, 'Who are these?' They said to me, 'Proceed!'

And so we proceeded and came across a river." I think he said, ".... red like blood." The Prophet added, "And behold, in the river there was a man swimming, and on the bank there was a man who had collected many stones. Behold. while the other man was swimming, he went near him. The former opened his mouth and the latter (on the bank) threw a stone into his mouth whereupon he went swimming again. He returned and every time the performance was repeated, I asked my two companions, 'Who are these (two) persons?' They replied, 'Proceed! Proceed!'

And we proceeded till we came to a man with a repulsive appearance, the most repulsive appearance, you ever saw a man having! Beside him there was a fire and he was kindling it and running around it. I asked my companions, 'Who is this (man)?' They said to me, 'Proceed! Proceed!'

So we proceeded till we reached a garden of deep green dense vegetation, having all sorts of spring colors. In the midst of the garden there was a very tall man and I could hardly see his head because of his great height, and around him there were children in such a large number as I have never seen. I said to my companions, 'Who is this?' They replied, 'Proceed! Proceed!'

So we proceeded till we came to a majestic huge garden, greater and better than I have ever seen! My two companions said to me, 'Go up and I went up' The Prophet added, "So we ascended till we reached a city built of gold and silver bricks and we went to its gate and asked (the gatekeeper) to open the gate, and it was opened and we entered the city and found in it, men with one side of their bodies as handsome as the handsomest person you have ever seen, and the other side as ugly as the ugliest person you have ever seen. My two companions ordered those men to throw themselves into the river. Behold, there was a river flowing across (the city), and its water was like milk in whiteness. Those men went and threw themselves in it and then returned to us after the ugliness (of their bodies) had disappeared and they became in the best shape." The Prophet further added, "My two companions (angels) said to me, 'This place is the Eden Paradise, and that is your
place.' I raised up my sight, and behold, there I saw a palace like a white cloud! My two companions said to me, 'That (palace) is your place.' I said to them, 'May Allah bless you both! Let me enter it.' They replied, 'As for now, you will not enter it, but you shall enter it (one day)

I said to them, 'I have seen many wonders tonight. What does all that mean which I have seen?'

They replied, 'We will inform you:

As for the first man you came upon whose head was being injured with the rock, he is the symbol of the one who studies the Quran and then neither recites it nor acts on its orders, and sleeps, neglecting the enjoined prayers.

As for the man you came upon whose sides of mouth, nostrils and eyes were torn off from front to back, he is the symbol of the man who goes out of his house in the morning and tells so many lies that it spreads all over the world. And

those naked men and women whom you saw in a construction resembling an oven, they are the 

adulterers and the adulteresses;,

and the man whom you saw swimming in the river and given a stone to swallow, is the eater of usury (Riba) and

the bad looking man whom you saw near the fire kindling it and going round it, is Malik, the gatekeeper of Hell and

the tall man whom you saw in the garden, is Abraham and the children around him are those children who die with Al-Fitra (the Islamic Faith)."

The narrator added: Some Muslims asked the Prophet, "O Allah's Apostle! What about the children of pagans?" The Prophet replied, "And also the children of pagans."

The Prophet added, "My two companions added,

'The men you saw half handsome and half ugly were those persons who had mixed an act that was good with another that was bad, but Allah forgave them.'"

Source:

Sahih Bukhari Volume 9, Book 87, 

Women's Right In Islaam by Allaamah Ash Shaykh Yahya Al Hajooree (Hafidaullah)

Haa'iyyah حائية Ibn Abee Daawood as-Sijistani ابن أبي داود السجستاني‏

The Ruling in Divulging Marital Secrets

Question: 

Some women are overcome by the urge to communicate what is said in the house and their marital life to their relatives and friends.  Some of what is said is secret, and the husband does not want anyone else to know it.  what is the ruling o­n women who divulge these secrets and communicate them to those outside the house, or to some members of the household? 

Answer:
The practice, as some women do, of communicating what is said in the house, and communicating details about their marital life to relatives and friends, is a forbidden thing.  It is not permissible for a woman to divulge the secrets of her house or her affairs with her husband to any person. 

Allah, Most High says:

Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allâh and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allâh orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). An-Nisa 4:34 - and the Prophet (salla lahu 'alahi wa sallam) informed us that the worst of people in rank before Allaah o­n the Day of Resurrection will be a man who has sexual intercourse with his wife and she with him, then he communicates her secrets.

Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
Fatawa Islamiyah Vol 5 pgs 366-367
The Book of Marriage

Asking for less refutation [signs of Ahl Al-Bidah]

It is reported from Al-’Abbâs b. Al-Walîd that 


‘Uqbah said:

I was once with Arta’ah b. Al-Mundhir when one 

of the people in the gathering said, “What do 

you say about a man who sits with the followers 

of the Sunnah and mixes with them, but when 

the followers of Bid’ah are mentioned he says, 

‘Spare us from mentioning them, do not talk 

about them?’” Arta’ah said, “He is one of them, 

do not let him confuse you about his condition.” 

I felt this was strange, so I went to Al-Awzâ’î – 

and he used to clarify these matters when they came to him. He said, “Arta’ah is right, the matter 

is as he said; this person forbids talking about 

[Ahl Al-Bid'ah], so how can [people] be on guard against them if they are not exposed?”

Ibn ‘Asâkir, Târîkh Dimishq 8:15.